I am a caregiver to my husband who is a disabled veteran, a Marine to be exact.
This caregiver position is officially given to me. Veteran Caregivers are employed by the VA or Veterans Affairs. Chad's problems are both internal and external. He has PTSD, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, which can cause episodes some minor and some serious and concerning. Tinnitus and TBI or Traumatic Brain Injury are some of the other issues he has that can’t be seen. Some people think Tinnitus is a foot issue. But actually, Tinnitus is a constant ringing in his ears. Ringing in his ears can be escalated or triggered by certain sounds and tones. The TBI is from quite a few blows to the head ranging from comical to quite serious. These don’t help with his PTSD. For the most part, they tend to be triggers for PTSD episodes he's had.
Chad has more obvious issues which is a compression of his spine from carrying around basically huge bullets on his shoulders. The bullets weighed hundreds of pounds each. Men were used as transports for these bullets from the stock to the gun. Usually two bullets at a time. The lasting result from this is his spine is compressed. So because of this, he needs to use a cane or walker.
These are the reasons Chad is unable to work.
Also, long periods of time being left alone can be harmful to him. This is where I come in. I'm the daily pill he takes to keep structured and safe. So I am both his caregiver and his wife. This doesn’t mean I sit there and stare at him all day long. Also, I don't keep him constantly under my thumb either. Basically, he needs to my support and not a dictatorship. I'm there for when the times are bad. I make sure he stays healthy and happy as much as I can. Because I love him and want him to be happy.
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